Rainmaker Story #13: Bob’s Dinner or the Value of Affinity in a Network
The managing partner of a firm once told me about a dinner that he and his boss had with a client in Chicago long ago. The boss, whose name is Bob, was the founder of the firm and a prodigious rainmaker. Much of his prowess was based on a detailed knowledge of certain aspects of the insurance industry. That knowledge allowed the firm to compete with larger firms with stronger reputations and deeper pockets.
Like Bob, the client had spent all his career in insurance, so all through the dinner they regaled each other with stories about people they knew in the business. The client, like Bob, could trace people then prominent in the industry back three or four jobs and describe how they had made their careers. They matched each other, story for story, from the appetizer through dessert.
After leaving the client, as Bob and future managing partner were walking back to their hotel, Bob said, “Didn’t we learn a lot!” His young colleague was baffled by his enthusiasm.
Three weeks later the two men were attending an association meeting where they were introduced to someone who had been the subject of one of the client’s stories during the dinner. “Oh, your so-and-so! I’ve heard so much about you,” said Bob. “Didn’t you . . .” and he proceeded to tell the man he had just met about one of the man’s early successes. “I’d love to get together with you some time,” Bob concluded. “Sure,” said the man, without hesitation. “Give my secretary a call and we’ll set something up.” He handed Bob his card.
If someone whom you had never met told you something about your past in detail, wouldn’t you be curious? Wouldn’t you be inclined to give the person a meeting?
In other posts, I have written about the benefits of specialization. One such benefit is the affinity it creates in your network. As in this example, the knowledge you get from one network member has interest to others that isn’t the case in low affinity networks. You do better work and you get better work because of this knowledge.